Relationships: Part II
***Important: I recently learned that divorce rates are actually higher amongst Christians than amongst non-Christians... Thus we must seriously consider what it takes to maintain a relationship. If we are able to command a mountain to move, then surely we are capable of understanding and implementing methods of sustaining a relationship. However, in both cases, we must go to lengths of honoring one above ourselves to accomplish the feat.
As we may all have a different idea as to what it means to love and be loved, let's discuss this topic: What does it mean to love someone? What does it mean to love your wife/honor your husband? What challenges stand in the way of this? What labor is involved in overcoming the challenges?
In any relationship (buddy-buddy or husband-wife), there are set expectations, and usually conflicts arise when we do not understand or express our expectations. Let's discuss this topic of love/loving. By establishing and discussing expectations involved in a relationship, we may learn how to approach and resolve conflicts so as to make love the priority and not the expectation.
posted by Mick Ó Seasnáin at
4:00 PM
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Not to add to my own blog, but I wanted to include the question/advice from the previous relational blog:
Anonymous asked: how much time is healthy to spend with each other while date.
Others answered: Avoid secluded time in order to avoid crossing thresholds. Quality time - time spent getting to know each other deeply - may be any length necessary, as long as it does not place one in a compromising situation.
However, if time is DEMANDED, altering one’s ability to maintain oneself in life, there is a problem. For example: if you have set the goal of graduating from college, and you are spending so much time with a girlfriend/boyfriend that you are failing, there is a problem.
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Mick Ó Seasnáin, at 4:48 PM
i am realizing that the number one way to have healthy relationship with husband or friends is that only Jesus has my whole heart. no matter how much i loooove my husband, i love HIM more and first!!!!!!!!!
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Bek, at 7:07 PM
I doubt the percentages are astronomical...but I have actually talked to/heard from a number of people that think marriage is a waste of time. I thought they meant that they'd be a bachelor(rette) forever. No, they fully planned on living with another person and having kids, just foregoing the "inconvenience" of marriage.
One of the reasons? "Well, it makes it that much easier when I stop loving her." I guess it's expected nowadays.
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Jason, at 8:55 AM
Jason, you should tell the story of your old co-worker's attitude toward marriage (his wife + multiple parters on a weekly basis)
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Mick Ó Seasnáin, at 3:16 PM
As this is not a site for Mike, per say, the password/messages will be co-held by official Iron Clad members. Members are encouraged to obtain personal blogs or simply to comment freely as "Other"
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Mick Ó Seasnáin, at 3:19 PM
mike - :) we know its you!!!!!!!!!!
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Bek, at 8:59 AM
I do find it interesting that when "dating/courting" - whatever you want to call it - we have so many opinions and ideas about what marriage will be like. I don't think that "work" came to mind (at least not as readily as the other benefits of marriage ;). It really takes a lot of work to make a relationship remain healthy.
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